When you first go out
on a date, don't talk about yourself. Don't talk
about your fancy car or your new boat that you just got. Take
it slow dude, relax. Let her get a few words in there. We weed
out the bad from the good on our first dates. If you don't do
it right, you will end up with more of the bad than good.
Trust me, you already know about this. Shut your damn mouth!
Let her take the direction of the conversation. Let her talk
about what she wants to talk about. Get a feel for what she
has to say. Go for it buddy, you might find out she is as dumb
as a box of rocks.
You have to understand that with a date there
is a small window of opportunity. The
first impressions are the most important. That is
the time that you get to sell yourself in a short amount of
time. This is the area where you weed the good from the bad.
Chances are in the first ten minutes you will know if you will
ever get this chick in the sack. Or at least you should. You
should be such a well tuned machine that you can see a
potential lay from a mile away. Hey, that also rhymes neatly.
If she feels that you
are full of yourself you won't get anywhere with
her. You will end up with one hell of a boring date. Like
talking to yourself? Next time go out to dinner with yourself
and just talk away. You will save a few bucks. If you
overwhelm her with nonsense, that is just what you will get.
The only way this will work is if she is out for a free meal
ticket. She is out for someone to pay her bills. This is no
good unless you have a lot of money or know you will get her
in the sack. Then at best, only bang her for a few weeks. Let
her drain some other poor sap's wallet.
Take this time and go
slow. Use small talk to its full advantage. Talk to
her about useless shit that you would never talk to anyone
about. Make yourself look smart, throw a little in about how
much money you make, but don't over do it. Just bait the hook
a little bit. This will give you space to move around. After
you get her in the 'zone' as I call it, then you can start to
go in deep. You have to get her on the hook before you can
reel her in. Take it slow, this will help you in the long run.
Let her take the
lead. See what she is made of! You will need this
for later when trying to tally your chances of getting laid.
You won't know if you don't allow her to talk. If you do all
the talking, all you will know is what the sound of silence is
like. That certainly won't help Mr. Penis any. The first date
is like dancing a strange dance. There are many leads through
out the night. You must be aware when a lead changes so that
you are able to take over. This will enable you to work at
getting in her pants. If you do all the talking, you won't
know how to turn her dials. Instead, she will only be tuned to
one station. That station is full of nothing but silence.
Remember, when going
out on that first date don't be full of yourself.
No woman wants that. No woman wants to hear of your lavish
apartment, how your accountant gets bug eyes every year at tax
time, how your ex used you for all your money. She wants to
hear small talk. She wants to hear about how you like her ear
rings and the smell of her hair. That will get you a lot
farther than talking about yourself. You already know about
yourself, get to know that person next to you!
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