Sexual desire is determined by numerous biological and psychological factors; consequently it can oscillate through time. And while women are known to be more often affected by a low libido, the approximately 15% of all men who experience the same condition are considerably more distressed about it.
As statistics indicate, 46% of women and only 23% of men who lost appetite for intercourse still consider themselves pleased with their life. This can only stress the gravity of the problem and the necessity for interfering as soon as possible and solving it, in order to avoid losing appetite for many other activities of your life.
One of the reasons why inhibited sexual desire has more destructive consequences on male health is the fact that masculinity itself is closely linked to sexuality. Whenever a man realizes he is no longer interested in being intimate with his partner, his virility is threatened, resulting into other psychological disorders.
Medically referred to as ISD, it defines a low level of interest in sexual activities, making the sufferer to either stop initiating intercourse or to not respond his partner’s signals that invite to intimacy. Depending on its nature, the affection can be isolated, referring solely to the current partner, general, when no woman attracts the patient, and, in extreme cases, the lack of desire can evolve into a serious aversion, the idea alone of making sex becoming repulsive.
Sex therapists claim for ISD to be not only one of the most common disorders that couples confront with, but also the one that affects a relationship more than any other male sexual dysfunction.
While it can be primary – the person never had a normal sex drive – or secondary – the libido gradually decreases, the most common is the second one. For this reason identifying it is rather difficult, as no sudden changes occur. Diagnose is even more harder, considering that it can be easily mistaken with a sexual incompatibility, when partners have different expectations regarding their love life and one accuses the other of having an inhibited sexual desire.
In general, hormonal imbalances, chronic stress or chronic fatigue, depressions and medications that cause pain and fatigue can directly affect the libido and allow ISD to manifest. All these however are associated with other medical conditions as well and isolating a trigger is often challenging. The problem is that the only effective treatment must be focused on the exact cause of the disease.
Relationship therapy is also an alternative because differences and conflicts in any other area of their life can worsen the sexual appetite. Showing empathy, being capable to resolve differences and to express the things that bother you without anger and criticize can lead to a consolidation of the relationship and to a stronger bond between partners.
As a final observation, whenever the man experiences inhibited sexual desire, because the healing process takes time, his partner must make a clear difference between being affectionate and sexually aroused. Assuring someone who is stressed about the idea of engaging into intercourse that intimate gestures are not an invitation to sex is very important.
The entire above will be learned through time, which is why counseling is mandatory. Medical investigations to determine potential hormonal problems or other underlying conditions must also be performed. Remember that only a professional can effectively diagnose you.