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How long does the perfect sexual act last?
It is said every man is an island. True. We are all different, unique and one of a kind in our own ways. We all have different needs and desires,
different favorites, likes and dislikes in matters of sex. And we certainly need different amounts of time to be completely satisfied, sexually speaking.
Despite of what you might think, the most satisfying sexual intercourses don’t last 30 minutes, an hour or several hours. Specialists say that the perfect
sexual act lasts between 3 and 13 minutes; this affirmation goes against the more classical opinions that state the fact that women especially need hours
and hours to feel completely satisfied from a sexual point of view.
Two American researchers, Eric Corty and Jenay Guardiani, have made a study on 50 members of the ‘Society for Sex Therapy and Research’; among them counted
plastic surges, psychologists, family doctors, medical nurses etc, who all confronted with hundreds of patients over the years.
68% of them indicated four coordinates regarding the duration of a sexual act, starting from the penetration and until the actual ejaculation: adequate,
satisfying, too long and too short. On average, it was discovered that the ‘adequate’ time is between 3 and 7 minutes, the ‘satisfying’ time is between
7 and 13 minutes, the ‘too short’ time is between 1 and 2 minutes, and the ‘too long’ time is between 10 and 30 minutes.
Nevertheless, specialists say that the way in which a man/woman determines the optimal duration of a sexual act depends on certain personal criteria:
culture, education, conceptions, values, social influences, interpersonal relations etc. Even today there are stereotypes regarding sexual education – a lot of people
tend to believe that, for instance, ‘hard-sex’ promoted through porn productions are applied in real life too.
In the past, the polls made showed the fact that a large number of respondents would have wanted sex to last somewhere around 30 minutes or more. But as long as
men and women dream of entire nights having wild sex, in which erections and orgasms go one after another like the scenes of an erotic movie, there will always
be the reverse of the medal: disappointment, confusion and the birth of sexual dysfunctions.
After all, it’s all about having a good time with your partner, knowing her body, her needs, desires and how to accomplish them, but at the same time you have to
think about your own desires and pleasure as well. The most efficient quality a relationship might have, and we are not only referring to a sexual relationship,
is effective communication.
If you talk to your partner and find out how long she wants sex to last, and you reach an orgasm in let’s say 2 minutes, you could
find it less disturbing if your partner fakes her orgasm and you discover. At least you now why. Keep your eyes on the ‘watch’, but picture this ‘watch’ as
an indicator of your pleasure.
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